When people get into treatment for alcohol addiction, a common component of the treatment is to go through their homes and get rid of every drop of alcohol there. Beer, liquor, wine... even mouthwash. (I can't tell you how many times I've actually had a client get desperate and drink Scope.) The reason for this is utterly practical. If someone has alcohol in their house and they are an alcoholic... they'll drink it. If someone has an addiction to drugs, a part of the treatm

Years ago, I had a divorce case. There was not anything particularly unique about it. Marriage was about 10 years. No kids. But there was definitely infidelity. Infidelity is one of those odd things in divorce law. Washington is what is called a "no fault" divorce state. What this means is that, for the vast majority of the time, whether or not someone is unfaithful has no legal relevance whatsoever. It does not have anything to do with property division, and rarely ever has

The Bear Problem                   As a species, we are not terribly well suited to modern times. Our reaction to danger tends to be very physical in nature. Adrenaline surges. Body temperatures spike. Heart rate elevates. Skin flushes. Blood rushes away from our extremities and pools towards our center. Our thoughts become hyper-fixated and narrow. We tend towards behavioral loops – repeating the same actions over and over with additional fervor.                 This constel

Every now and then, I think it is important to diverge a bit from my usual family law topics. For many years before I practiced family...

If you have been reading this blog for a while, you probably know that I am a vocal advocate for people forming "survival committees" of...

Typically, I write this blog for the litigants, but this post is for the litigators. Being a family law lawyer is a challenging endeavor....

Can you recite the pledge of allegiance? Could you do it while you were driving? Could you do it while doing a math problem? Could you do...

"Oh, she's willing to negotiate, but she won't tell you anything about her assets or income until you agree to the parenting plan she...

It is not uncommon for someone to come into my office for an initial divorce consultation with a spreadsheet containing a proposed...

A dear friend of mine defines maturity in people as "a deep ability to connect present actions to future outcomes." I generally agree...

A common mistake made by clients (and Courts) is adoption of a "one size fits all" attitude for parenting plans. The reality of parenting...

Tragically, domestic violence is a frequent part of family law proceedings. Many victims of domestic violence think, "I should get a...

One of the most common scenarios in my family law practice: A client comes in for a consultation on a divorce. In the course of the...

Once the lawyers and judges have made their way out of your life, you are left with the often challenging job of co-parenting. If there...

This blog is the first entry in the "Practitioner's Corner" series, where I discuss recent developments in Washington case law that...

Your co-parent's residential time with the child starts tomorrow morning at 10:00 a.m. In the parenting plan, it's your job to get the...

I first encountered this phenomenon with my own child. When he was little, my wife and I were struggling with potty training. My son was...

There are several things in life you likely learned from your family - how to cook, how to drive, how to act at work... the list goes on...

Brene Brown shares a great story in one of her TED talks about a father who came with his daughters to a book-signing she was doing. As...

"Want to turn an easy divorce into a hard divorce? Date someone while the divorce hasn't been finalized yet. Want to make it really hard?...